Although Family Constellations feel like magic, they are not. I can’t foresee what the direct consequence of a session will be in terms of healing, but it begins to bring back order and opens space for possibility, abundance, health and love to begin to flow with ease in favor of life. 

On the one hand, when we have a problem, we have a narrative of what the problem is and all our efforts to solve it are done through that lens. What we see in Constellations, however, is that most of the time the real disorder is another one. Through a session you learn what the real situation is behind your problem. and you leave with a different view. That alone shifts your perspective, thoughts and consequent actions. 

On the other hand, a Family Constellations session creates a big energetic movement (this we can’t explain but we see the effects) for you and for all the elements or persons that appeared in your session. A law of systems is that when one of the interconnected element changes position or shifts, the other elements move accordingly to accommodate to the new distribution. That means that, while we can’t force others to change, when we ourselves move to a place of more order (e.g. going back to the place of the child, the partner, the sibling, the friend, the parent, etc.), we leave space open for others to consciously or unconsciously respond and move accordingly.

In constellations we say “when it’s too much, then it’s nothing at all”. It means that we can only take in so much at once before we begin to freeze, numb or intellectualize. As a trauma-informed FC facilitator, my main concern is that you are able to integrate every step of the session. This means that some Constellations have a very clear outcome and the issue feels complete, and then there are some Constellations for deeper rooted issues that work in layers. However, that first layer that you will peel off still needs a long time to be integrated before you constellate again, and it will already begin to set powerful change and possibility into motion. For this reason, the recommended waiting time after an individual session before you constellate the same or another issue is at least 3 months and after a group workshop 6 months.

The healing can come in different forms. For example, if you are constellating a physical symptom, it can be that it disappears, that it lowers, that the medical treatment you are having beings to work, that you learn about a new method you had not heard before, that you find a new doctor or practitioner that has the right thing for you, that you find peace around your symptom and you learn to live with it in a different way, etc.

If I find that any of the above mentioned reasons were not respected, we will not do the constellation, as my priority is to provide for you a space of care. However, if this happens, I will offer you suggestions, like: come back in some time, change your topic of request or have a Somatic consulting session with me to help you find order, clarity or stabilization before we move on to do a Constellation.

The Family Constellation Session is (in most cases) a one session format. However, it is up to you if you wish to received further support after the session. I offer therapeutical accompaniment through my somatic consulting sessions and I have experience working hand in hand with psychotherapists, psychiatrists, allopathic and ayurvedic doctors, chiropractors, coaches, energy healers in its various modalities, yoga and meditation teachers and other somatic therapy providers, which enables me to notice when something is inside or outside of my scope of practice. I am not licensed to diagnose something outside of my field, however if during the family constellation session I notice that you could benefit complementing the work you are doing with me with one of the other disciplines, I will suggest it as this is part of my ethical practice, as well as my advocacy for interdisciplinary work.

 

A Family Constellation does not substitute going to a doctor or a mental health clinician.